{"id":636,"date":"2021-04-05T21:55:59","date_gmt":"2021-04-05T21:55:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/?p=636"},"modified":"2021-04-05T21:55:59","modified_gmt":"2021-04-05T21:55:59","slug":"permission-based-coaching","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/permission-based-coaching\/","title":{"rendered":"Permission-Based Coaching"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/Permission.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-637 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/Permission-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/Permission-300x168.jpg 300w, http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/Permission.jpg 620w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>Sometimes it feels like we live in a society that thrives on giving unsolicited advice and loves to \u201ctell\u201d instead of \u201cask\u201d. \u201cYou should do <em>[insert task here]<\/em> this way.\u201d \u201cYou need to handle <em>[insert situation here]<\/em> by doing this.\u201d After a while, we can feel like we\u2019re losing our sense of autonomy or worse, start to doubt our ability to make decisions on our own. However, one place where you should never feel like you\u2019re being \u201ctold\u201d instead of \u201casked\u201d is when you\u2019re working with a coach. That\u2019s why \u201cpermission coaching\u201d is such a vital part of the process. By asking permission when having a discussion, it helps people feel like they\u2019re in the driver\u2019s seat and their feelings are respected. It also establishes trust in the coaching relationship. Here are a few approaches that are permission-based:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019d like to discuss some more about this matter. Would this be okay with you?\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cIs this a good time to talk and explore this topic a little more?\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cCan we spend a few minutes brainstorming some ideas about this?\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019m getting the sense you have more to say about this topic. Could I ask some more in-depth questions?\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Some people get so used to being \u201ctold\u201d what to do that it becomes a comfortable pattern. It\u2019s easier to be led and rely on someone else than make autonomous decisions. On the other hand, other people who live or work in an environment where they\u2019re consistently being told what to do may become defensive and resentful. Both personalities benefit from \u201cpermission coaching\u201d because it gives them a chance to explore their own thoughts and insights independent from being told what to think or feel.<\/p>\n<p>This isn\u2019t always an easy process and it takes work, particularly if you\u2019re accustomed to being told how to handle things under the guise of \u201cadvice\u201d. \u00a0If you\u2019re interested in learning more about how working with a coach can help you explore your thoughts and reach new insights on YOUR terms, Leah M. Joppy and Associates can help. Call us at 301-670-0051 or email <a href=\"mailto:leah@lmja.com\">leah@lmja.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes it feels like we live in a society that thrives on giving unsolicited advice and loves to \u201ctell\u201d instead of \u201cask\u201d. \u201cYou should do [insert task here] this way.\u201d \u201cYou need to handle [insert situation here] by doing this.\u201d After a while, we can feel like we\u2019re losing our sense of autonomy or worse, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[58,2,6],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/636"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=636"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/636\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":638,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/636\/revisions\/638"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=636"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=636"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=636"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}