{"id":639,"date":"2021-04-05T21:57:25","date_gmt":"2021-04-05T21:57:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/?p=639"},"modified":"2021-04-13T15:07:24","modified_gmt":"2021-04-13T15:07:24","slug":"whos-in-charge-of-your-coaching","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/whos-in-charge-of-your-coaching\/","title":{"rendered":"Who\u2019s In Charge of Your Coaching?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/In-charge.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-651 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/In-charge-300x187.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"187\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/In-charge-300x187.jpg 300w, http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/In-charge.jpg 317w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>Think about it: how likely are you to take someone\u2019s \u201cadvice\u201d when they\u2019re essentially telling you what to do? Are you more likely to act on an idea if you\u2019ve come up with it on your own and feel that it\u2019s YOUR decision?<\/p>\n<p>For most people,asking for advice sounds more appealing. The difference comes down to \u201casking for advice\u201d versus \u201ctelling you what to do.\u201d Often, they both seek to accomplish the same thing, but the methods and results can differ dramatically.<\/p>\n<p>We don\u2019t often think about the differences between asking and telling and the effects of both. When you ask someone to do something, you\u2019re creating a dialogue. However, telling someone what do to is a monologue. Here\u2019s a further breakdown of the differences:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Telling You What To Do:<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Controls the information<\/li>\n<li>Doesn\u2019t engage the other person in the decision making process<\/li>\n<li>Keeps you in the role of the \u2018knowledgeable person\u2019<\/li>\n<li>Makes people reliant on you for advice or information<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Asking For Advice:<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Empowers others<\/li>\n<li>Encourages decision making<\/li>\n<li>Engages people in the thought process<\/li>\n<li>Encourages people to be less reliant on your \u201cexpertise\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>We experience \u201casking\u201d versus \u201ctelling\u201d in so many areas of our lives: work, home and relationships with family and friends. One area where asking for permission is so vital is during the coaching process. People often work with coaches because they\u2019re ready to make meaningful change and approach life with a new and fresh way of thinking. This type of change is only going to be sustainable if a person comes up with ideas and perspectives on their own terms.<\/p>\n<p>Many people feel a little nervous when they start working with a coach. After all, you\u2019re delving into the most personal of territories: your life. You\u2019re bearing your soul about what\u2019s working and what you\u2019d like to do differently. You\u2019re there with the goal of making changes, but change can make you feel vulnerable. All of these feelings are completely natural. That\u2019s why it\u2019s so important that the coaching relationship is participant-driven and you\u2019re in the driver\u2019s seat. It sets a collaborative tone and uncovers tools for success in the future.<\/p>\n<p>When we reflect on the biggest changes we\u2019ve made in our lives, most likely they\u2019ve happened because we\u2019ve made decisions and come to conclusions on our own terms. Advice or the unpopular \u201cyou should do this\u201d method is rarely helpful. If you\u2019re looking for coaching where you\u2019re in charge, <strong>Leah M Joppy and Associates<\/strong> is ready to help. Call us at 301-670-0051 or email <a href=\"mailto:leah@lmja.com\">leah@lmja.com<\/a> to learn more.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Think about it: how likely are you to take someone\u2019s \u201cadvice\u201d when they\u2019re essentially telling you what to do? Are you more likely to act on an idea if you\u2019ve come up with it on your own and feel that it\u2019s YOUR decision? For most people,asking for advice sounds more appealing. The difference comes down [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/639"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=639"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/639\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":652,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/639\/revisions\/652"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=639"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=639"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.lmja.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=639"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}