Category: Leadership

Finding Motivation In Trying Times

The stressors of the past several months have caused many of us to feel like we’re in fight or flight mode. Perhaps you’ve noticed that you’re having difficulty making decisions or having issues with your short-term memory. Or maybe you’re feeling numb and disassociated and have trouble finding motivation. All of these feelings are signs that you’re living in survival mode. It can be challenging dealing with the day-to-day, much less feel like you can plan for the future. You may feel ‘stuck’ and wonder how you can move forward and feel more like yourself.

There is no single way to get out of survival mode and different approaches work for different people. However, the first step is to acknowledge that you’re living in survival mode and that you’ve been coping for too long. Acknowledge how you’re feeling without putting on a brave front. Here are a few other ways to help move out of survival mode:

  • Use some self-compassion – It all starts with giving yourself a break and talking to yourself in a kinder, gentler way. Ask yourself how you’d treat your best friend or your child if they were feeling this way and then apply that to yourself. It’s okay to struggle and you deserve to look after yourself.
  • Take care of your health, both physically and mentally – For some, survival mode might look like binge-drinking and bad eating habits. But nurturing self-care looks like taking the time to do something each day that feeds your physical and mental wellbeing. It can be getting outside for a walk, eating more fruit and vegetables and less sugar or deleting social media apps on your phone.
  • Build in some structure – If you’ve been in survival mode for a while, you’re probably struggling to plan and probably feel disorganized and disjointed. This is where building more structure into your day can help create a sense of order and calm. It can also help with some of the decision fatigue that tends to come with survival mode. It may be the last thing you feel able to do right now, but even a small amount can make a big difference.
  • Acknowledge little ‘wins’ – Aiming for realistic and achievable goals, no matter how small, will help build confidence and provide some fuel to help you through this difficult time. What goal can you set for the day or the week? Think about how you’ll feel when you hit it.
  • Figure out your triggers that are within your control – Make a list of things in your life outside of work that are triggering stress and identify ways to counteract that stress or limit your exposure to it. For example: Are you doom scrolling on social media and need to take a break? Are you checking your email more than you need to and can cut back? Is it time to turn off the news and do something more productive?

When you’re in survival mode, just remember: It’s okay not to be okay. Sometimes you need some extra support to feel like you’re moving forward and not stagnating. That’s where working with a coach, like Leah M Joppy and Associates can help. You can’t change what’s happening in the workplace, but you can find ways to feel less ‘stuck’ and able to plan for the future.

Call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Living In Survival Mode

With everything going on in your work life right now, does it sometimes feel like you’re trying to walk through quick sand? Do you barely have the energy to make it through the day, often feeling on edge and exhausted? The cloud of uncertainty you’re living under right now may have caused a shift from feeling like you’re thriving to living in ‘survival mode’. And the symptoms you’re experiencing are a normal response to stress, not a reflection on your strength or capability as a person. It’s your body’s evolutionary response to danger and is meant to protect you in times of threat.

What Is ‘Survival Mode’?

You’ve probably heard the term before, but what exactly does ‘survival mode’ mean? When you’re in survival mode, your brain is focused on getting through challenges. It’s constantly on alert to protect you from threats and can stop you from resting or enjoying life. Survival mode can appear differently in different people. For some, it looks more like anxiety, and in others, flatness and depression. For example, if you have anxiety, you feel hypervigilant and on high alert. In those with constant low mood, lack of energy and feeling ‘flat’, the parasympathetic nervous system may be over-functioning. In both cases, the nervous system has become dysregulated in response to stress.

When you’re knee-deep in survival mode, particularly for a long period, it can be difficult to identify the symptoms. Here are 5 common signs to look for:

  • Difficulty making decisions: When you’re in survival mode, even small decisions can feel overwhelming. Choices that used to be easy and straightforward, like deciding what to eat or what to wear, might feel challenging and even impossible at times.
  • Feeling unmotivated: Activities and tasks that used to excite you might now feel draining or pointless. You may feel a general lack of motivation and may start feeling down on yourself for being ‘lazy’. But it’s far from it – it’s a sign that your mind and body need a break.
  • Lack of focus and concentration: You may find it hard to concentrate on tasks or keep forgetting things. A lack of focus can happen when your brain is overloaded with stress and anxiety.
  • Frequent mood swings and irritability: The constant tension and anxiety that comes with survival mode can make your mood change quickly and you might find yourself becoming irritated by small things that didn’t use to bother you.
  • Inability to relax or unwind: Your mind might be racing constantly, making it difficult to enjoy downtime, hobbies or rest properly.

Persistent, unresolved stress is a key indicator of survival mode. It’s normal to feel stress from time to time, but if this stress doesn’t go away and starts affecting your daily life, it’s a sign you’re stuck in a survival state. Extended periods can have major impacts on everything from your physical health to your relationships and overall quality of life.

So many of us are facing unprecedented challenges in our work life, but feeling stuck in survival mode and unable to plan for the future doesn’t have to feel like your ‘new normal’. Working with a coach, like Leah M Joppy and Associates, provides a fresh perspective, goal setting and strategies to move from merely surviving to thriving. To learn more, call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Negativity Comes In Many Forms

With all up the upheaval in our professional lives, waking up in a “bad mood” can feel like an everyday occurrence. It can make us want to hide and isolate ourselves from friends, family and life in general. In fact, we may not even be aware at how much negativity has affected our day-to-day thinking.

Negativity can feel like a vicious cycle: you try your best to be positive, but then you get another text, email or have a conversation that sends you on a downward spiral. Prolonged periods of cynical thinking, denial and catastrophizing can create neural pathways in the brain that encourage sadness. These feelings can cause our brain to distort the truth and make it even more difficult to break the negative cycle. There are some common types of negativity that we may not even realize we’re falling victim to. Here are 7 examples:

  • Filtering: Only noticing the bad and filtering out the positive or good in an event or situation (ie- only focusing on the few criticisms in a performance review and not hearing all of the positive feedback).
  • Jumping to Conclusions: Assuming something bad will happen because of circumstances in the present.
  • Catastrophizing: Believing that disaster is inevitable.
  • Blaming: Blaming others for your circumstances and feeling that you are a victim to life’s uncontrollable events.
  • Emotional Reasoning: Defining what’s real and what’s not based purely on your emotions.
  • Fallacy of Change: Believing that if people or circumstances change, you’ll be happy.
  • Heaven’s Reward Fallacy: Assuming there will always be a reward for hard work and sacrifice. When the reward doesn’t happen, you become bitter and depressed.

Negative thoughts and emotions are a natural response to challenges in our life, but extended bouts can result in health issues, both physical and mental. Negativity sends our body into ‘fight-or-flight’ mode. We deal with stressful situations by releasing cortisol into the bloodstream, making us more alert and focused. And although some stress is good for us, extended periods of negativity can cause a host of side effects, including:

  • Slower digestion and upset stomach
  • Decrease in the immune system’s ability to fight inflammation
  • Headaches
  • Fatigue
  • Sleep problems or insomnia
  • Drastic changes in metabolism (i.e. overeating or under-eating)

You’re probably thinking, “Great! Now I’m not only dealing with work uncertainty, but I’m doing harm to my health as well!” The good news (and there is some!) is that negativity is a habit that can be broken. It’s not easy when you’re in the midst of chaos, but it is possible. We’ll look at some techniques to help in our next article. Working with a coach, like Leah M Joppy and Associates, can also provide a fresh perspective, goal setting and accountability that can help break the cycle of negativity. You want to feel like you’re moving forward – coaching can help you get there and feel less “stuck”. To learn more, call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Note: Our ‘Purposeful Retirement’ seminar on June 28th will now be held via Zoom. To learn more and register, please visit: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/purposeful-retirement-workshop-love-your-next-chapter-tickets-1325629667019.

Break The Cycle Of Negativity With These Tips

Change and uncertainty have been constants in our professional lives for the past several months and it can be incredibly difficult to deal with day-in and day-out. It can make us feel very discouraged and cynical and we may feel like it’s impossible to break the cycle of negative thinking. Did you know that we have about 50,000 spontaneous thoughts, images and ideas every day? Whether they’re positive or negative, they intrude into our awareness. And it’s those negative thoughts that are more likely to “stick” in our brain.

Is there any way to break the cycle, particularly when you’re in the thick of a particularly challenging period of life? Negativity is a habit and, luckily, most habits can be broken with awareness, motivation to change and putting in the work. Here are 3 ways to get started:

Manage your expectations: So often, we expect things to work out one way and they don’t. That’s why we don’t want to place a lot of specific expectations on an outcome we can’t predict. We’re less prepared for surprises when we have a preconceived idea about how something will turn out. By managing our expectations, we’re able to be more resilient when change inevitably happens. 

Monitor your social media time: We’re all guilty of it: you come home from a challenging day, you flop in the couch and start scrolling through your social media feeds. Before you know it, you’re surrounded by pictures of your friends’ “perfect vacations”, “perfect children” and articles about what DOGE may be doing next. And you end up feeling worse. Be mindful of the time you spend on social media and how it makes you feel. You can even set a timer on your phone to set limits for scrolling. Think about replacing “doom scrolling” with something that brings you happiness and fulfillment: reading, listening to music, taking a walk in nature, etc.

Let negative thoughts come and go – and question their accuracy: Allow yourself to have those negative thoughts and stop telling yourself that you shouldn’t think that way. Acknowledge the thought and then let it go. You can even visualize your thoughts as balloons that float away right after you have them. Also, question whether your thoughts and concerns are even true. So often, we allow our emotions to become truth and dictate how we perceive and react to situations. It can be freeing to say, “just because I believe something, it doesn’t mean that it’s true.”

We can’t stop life’s ebbs and flows, but we can learn how to accept change and break the cycle of negativity. Asking for help or even knowing where to start can feel daunting. Leah M Joppy and Associates is ready to help you thrive through challenging times and enhance your resiliency skills. Call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Note: Our ‘Purposeful Retirement’ seminar on June 28th will now be held via Zoom. To learn more and register, please visit: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/purposeful-retirement-workshop-love-your-next-chapter-tickets-1325629667019.

Helpful Tips On How To Deal With Change

Change and uncertainty in our lives can cause a roller coaster of emotions: fear, anger and sadness, just to name a few. Viewing change as an opportunity can feel impossible when it seems like it’s coming at us from all directions. We can’t stop life’s ebbs and flows, but we can learn how to accept change and even view it as an opportunity. It’s all about how we frame it.

Small adjustments to your mindset and habits can help with resistance to change and dealing with the uncertainty that comes with it. Here are 3 suggestions to get started:

Write down your thoughts: When faced with change, it’s natural for your mind to be flooded with worry, conflicting emotions and ‘what-if; scenarios. Journaling can be a powerful way to understand your feelings, discover self-limiting beliefs and find clarity. Whether you want to write down your emotions, describe your doubts or jot down questions, it’s important to get it all out on paper. Once you’ve written it all down, you can look for patterns or mental blocks you want to work on.

Lean on your support network: Change can feel particularly scary when you feel like you’re going through it alone. Being a part of a supportive social network can reduce stress and improve well-being. Sharing your experiences with your community and listening to the experiences of others can help you feel less isolated and more encouraged to face what’s next.

Accept your fears and don’t be ashamed of them: For most people, fear doesn’t feel good. However, you can fight off many fears by fostering a positive mindset and practicing a few simple thought exercises such as: concentrating on the strengths and accomplishments that have brought you this far; thinking about all of the challenges you’ve overcome and how you worked through them; identifying the root cause of your fear to avoid creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Another exercise is to focus on what you can control. Adopting practices that help you connect with and regulate your emotional state (ie: a meditation routine) help develop a deeper sense of strength and resilience. When the next change happens, you’re more likely to see it as an opportunity for growth, learning and for trying something different.

Life has few guarantees, but one thing you can count on is change. Building resilience can be your secret weapon for success and helps you thrive in the face of adversity. With all the changes and uncertainty that 2025 has brought so far, Leah M Joppy and Associates is ready to help you enhance your resiliency skills and face change with confidence. Our course, Building Resilience In Times Of Uncertainty, includes a resilience assessment and provides feedback about resiliency levels in 3 key areas: Challenge, Control and Commitment. Participants learn how to better prepare and manage uncertainty in life. And in a professional world filled with change, it can mean the difference between surviving and thriving. Our second course, What’s Next? Purposeful Planning for Post Retirement,will assist you in developing a proactive plan for a meaningful post-retirement life, grounded in your values, strengths, and experiences.

To learn more, call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Dealing With Change. Calling On Our Resilience.

“Change is the only constant in life.” You may not have known that this quote originated from Greek philosopher, Heraclitus, but we bet you’ve heard it a time or two! With the start of a New Year, a change in administration and so many other upcoming events, many of us are feeling the uncertainty  (and stress!) of change in our professional and personal life.

Change is always going to happen, but how we deal with it is crucial. It’s about our level of resilience, otherwise known as the ability to tolerate difficult or stressful situations while still remaining positive and productive. Some call it the ability to “bounce back.” According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology: ‘Resilience is the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or challenging life experiences, especially through mental and behavioral flexibility and adjustment to both external and internal demands.’ It’s a crucial component for your physical and emotional wellbeing and can mean the difference between surviving and thriving.

Embrace the 7 C’s. Understanding and embodying the 7 C’s of resilience can transform how you approach both your professional and personal life. It enables you to navigate obstacles with strength and confidence. Although initially directed at childhood development, Dr. Kenneth Ginsberg’s 7 Cs of resilience are vital in today’s ever-changing workplace. Let’s break it down:

  1. Competence: Develop the skills and knowledge to handle workplace situations effectively.
  2. Confidence: Build the self-confidence to trust your abilities and judgment in challenging situations.
  3. Connection: Foster strong relationships with team members to creative a supportive, collaborative environment.
  4. Character: Cultivate your personal values and integrity to guide your behavior and decision-making process.
  5. Contribution: Feeling that your contributions matter in order to build a sense of purpose and value.
  6. Coping: Develop effective ways to manage stress and adversity. This includes building problem solving and emotional regulation skills.
  7. Control: Focus on the parts of work you can control (i.e., your decisions and reactions) and let the rest go.

We can help. It sounds like a lot, especially when you feel like you’re just trying to stay afloat and manage your day-to-day tasks. But you don’t have to go it alone. Our new course, Building Resilience In Times Of Uncertainty, focuses on how to manage the stress, anxiety and uncertainty of “what’s next.” This course includes a resilience assessment and provides feedback about resiliency levels in 3 key areas: Challenge, Control and Commitment. Participants learn how to increase their resiliency and better prepare and manage uncertainty in their career and personal life. And who doesn’t want that, especially in today’s world?

Call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com for more information. 

Effective Strategies For Building Your Resilience

Many of us work in constantly connected, ‘always-on’, highly demanding positions where stress and the risk of burnout are common. Add to that the changes of an upcoming administration and it can seem like it’s almost too much to deal with. Since the pace and intensity of our work culture aren’t likely to change anytime soon, it’s more important than ever to build resilience skills to navigate work life. As we discussed in our previous article, resilience is the ability to ‘bounce back’ from challenges and adversity. It can have a major impact on your stress level, mental well-being and overall job satisfaction.

The good news: resilience is a skill that can be developed and strengthened over time. The key is to get started! Here are 7 effective strategies to help foster a positive mindset, manage stress and ultimately develop more resilience:

  • A study from NIH found that people are 3.5 times more likely to be resilient when in good physical health. Prioritizing sleep, exercise and proper nutrition is essential, particularly during times of change. Physical health supports resilience and resilience also leads to better physical recovery.
  • Develop a daily routine. Developing consistent habits, no matter how small, can help you make meaningful progress. Build some coping mechanism exercises into your routine, such as breathing and relaxation exercises and a mindfulness practice to better deal with stressful situations.
  • Focus on what you can control: Discerning what you can and can’t control keeps you positive and motivated. It’s also important to not ruminate on the past and focus on what lies ahead.
  • Don’t focus on your weaknesses. Focusing on your strengths helps you grow much faster than trying to improve your weaknesses. As hard as it is, try to see failure as an opportunity. With the right mindset, it can actually be a catalyst for growth.
  • Build a support network. Connect with co-workers, mentors or friends who can offer encouragement and advice during challenging times.
  • Don’t dwell in self-pity. We all know firsthand that life can be hard, but dwelling on our circumstances keeps us from emerging from them and moving forward.
  • Don’t compare yourself to others. Define your own version of success that has nothing to do with others’ strengths and accomplishments. 

Resilience is not just about surviving, but thriving in the face of adversity. And it can be your secret weapon for success. Leah M Joppy and Associates is ready to make 2025 the year you enhance your resiliency skills and face changes and challenges with confidence. Our course, Building Resiliency In Times Of Uncertainty, includes a resilience assessment and offers feedback about resiliency levels in 3 key areas: Challenge, Control and Commitment. This course will help participants identify strategies to increase their resilience and help manage the uncertainty of what’s next.

Call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com for more information.  Learning to manage workplace change – a critical strategy for the new year!

Recognizing A Strong Leader

If someone asked you, “what are the critical components of strong leadership”, what answer comes to mind? Maybe good listening skills or excellent communication would top the list. Or perhaps the ability to delegate and not micromanage. While all of those answers are spot-on, you may be surprised by one crucial component that’s often overlooked: self-reflection.

If you’re in a leadership role, when was the last time you made an effort to focus on self-reflection? Or have you ever really done it or even figured out what it means? Self-reflection is taking some time to think about your thoughts, behavior, motivation and actions. The concept seems simple, but it can be surprisingly difficult to do. We’re always moving on to the next project, meeting or crisis without pausing to reflect on what happened earlier that day or that week. On the flipside, self-reflection is NOT about beating yourself up and getting stuck in the past. We can’t turn back time or erase a negative outcome, but we can learn from those experiences and change our behavior or leadership tactics moving forward.

So, why is self-reflection a key practice for leaders? It’s all about the 3 A’s: Awareness, Adaptability and Action. Let’s take a closer look:

  • Awareness: Self-reflection helps leaders become aware of their strengths and weaknesses. That kind of awareness helps them better understand how they lead, teaches them to capitalize on their strengths and work on improving weaknesses.
  • Adaptability: The practice of self-reflection enables leaders to gain insights from past projects, interactions and team dynamics. They’re better able to adapt, grow and respond to changes, conflicts and whatever else is thrown at them.
  • Action: By practicing self-reflection, leaders learn to look at situations from a neutral perspective and set their own egos aside. This helps them see the big picture and take action where needed.

A consistent self-reflection practice pays off in so many ways for leaders and helps them:

  • Set priorities and make better decisions
  • Learn to use feedback for growth rather than taking it personally
  • Maintain better relationships
  • Communicate effectively by understanding how they come across to others
  • Create a more honest and productive work environment

Taking the time to reflect has big benefits for both leaders and organizations. Yet many don’t recognize the value or know how to put it into action. That’s where working with a coach, like Leah M Joppy and Associates, can help leaders build a regular, ongoing self-reflection process. Leaders will learn how to ask effective types of reflection questions, receive personalized feedback and help set and achieve their goals. Ready to learn more? Call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com to learn more.

 

 

 

The Bests Ways To Practice Self-Reflection

For such a useful practice, the self-reflection process is not something we know how to do intuitively. It’s not something we learn about in school and it isn’t part of most job training. Our work environments tend to focus on what to do next or how to do more. We’re shaped by “always moving forward” work cultures and we believe there’s no time to pause and reflect. Most of us don’t learn about the power of self-reflection until someone else, often a coach or mentor, guides us through the process.

Self-reflection enables leaders to identify their strengths, weaknesses and areas for improvement. But how do you begin a self-reflection practice if it’s not something that you typically take the time to do? Here are a few suggestions: 

Reflect regularly

Schedule 10 to 20 minutes a week for self-reflection. This should be blocked out in your calendar, so it’s a set time for you to quietly think and self-reflection becomes a regular habit. A quiet and calm place without distractions is ideal. For some, leaving the office environment helps clear the mind. Others may choose to arrive at the office 30 minutes earlier when it’s quiet, to reflect on the day or week ahead.

Develop a structure for reflection

Self-reflection can be overwhelming to begin with and particularly without a set focus. You may want to start with a single question or topic, such as the following areas:

  • Week in review: What went well? What did you learn? What could you do differently?
  • Highlights: What did you do well as a leader this day and/or week?
  • Leadership: What type of leader do you want to be? Which leaders do you look up to? How does your team view you as a leader?
  • Values: What are your core values? Do they align with your organization’s values?
  • Team: What type of leader does your team need? Are there ways you could better meet their needs?
  • Goals: What are the current goals of your organization? What needs to be done and are you on track? What do you need to do as a leader to meet these goals?

Write down your thoughts

Writing down thoughts and ideas down during self-reflection frees up space in your mind and gives you the opportunity to organize your thoughts. Plus, having a record of your self-reflective thoughts means that you can check back regularly and see your progress.

Encourage your team members to practice self-reflection

While self-reflection is important for leaders, your team can also find a lot of value in it. Encourage your team to regularly reflect on their own performance, as well as yours and make them feel comfortable sharing their insights with you.

Self-reflection is a humbling, but powerful technique that helps leaders (and team members) improve their performance. But it can be a tough process that makes you take an honest look at yourself: your strengths, your weaknesses, areas for improvement and how you should work to grow and develop. Leah M Joppy and Associates is ready to help you make self-reflection an important component of your leadership process. We can help you set goals and provide support and accountability. Contact us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com to learn more.

Why Some Managers Are Resistant To Work Schedule Flexibility

For many organizations, work schedule flexibility is a new part of their compensation package. It’s a powerful tool in terms of employee engagement, retention and recruiting. Remote and flexible schedules have shown to not only provide employees with higher job satisfaction, but better health, less absenteeism, increased work-life balance and less stress. This is all well and good for workers, but what do managers really think about remote work? While many understand the appeal and benefits, it’s still difficult to embrace change and work through the challenges of managing a remote and/or hybrid team.

Here’s a look at 7 reasons why managers may be resistant to remote work:

  • Lack of accountability and supervision: Sure, some team members work well (and in some cases better) working remotely. Then there are those that struggle with time management, distractions and other challenges. Managers may feel that it’s more challenging to supervise employees and keep them accountable when they’re not physically present in the office.
  • Loss of collaboration: Face-to-face interaction is often believed to foster a more cohesive work environment. Some managers worry that remote work can make it harder for team members to truly feel like a team. This is of particular concern for new team members and younger workers who are just starting out in their career.
  • Lack of company culture: Strong in-office culture can be a key component for an organization’s retention and recruitment. Managers may worry that remote work could be a hinderance towards building this culture.
  • Increase in security concerns: There may be concerns about the security of data when employees are working outside the office.
  • Decrease in productivity: Some managers may feel that team members are more productive in a controlled office environment. Working from home can potentially have more distractions and chances to break from a traditional work schedule.
  • Concerns about equity: In some settings, not all roles can be performed remotely or on a hybrid schedule. Allowing some employees to work from home might create perceived (or actual) inequities among team members.
  • Holding onto a traditional mindset: Some managers may still have a traditional view of work that involves all team members being present at a common workplace. Change is hard and personal experiences and beliefs take time to overcome, particularly when it comes to management practices.

As we discussed last month, an annual government-wide survey conducted by the Office of Personnel Management found that more than two-thirds of federal employees are still teleworking at least occasionally. Remote and hybrid work isn’t going anywhere, but neither are the management challenges if your organization doesn’t face them head on. Leah M Joppy and Associates can help you figure out your primary challenges and work with you and your team to make remote/hybrid working a more efficient, productive and collaborative experience!

 

Call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com to learn more.