Category: Personal Development

Gen Z And Return To Office

The Return to Office mandate has been a challenge for so many workers, from navigating a long commute to finding affordable child care and managing family schedules. However, there’s a generation that started their career at the beginning of the pandemic and may only know work life as remote employees. For Gen Z and even younger Millennials, the return to office can be overwhelming. They may struggle with the cultural shift and find it difficult to adjust to office life norms that many of us take for granted. And it’s an issue that can’t be ignored in the hopes that younger workers will just “adjust”. By 2030, Gen Z is projected to make up about a third of the workforce and their needs and influence will only continue to impact the office.

Why is Gen Z struggling with returning to the office? After all, we’ve read reports that many of them feel lonely and isolated working remotely and crave in-person contact. Let’s take a look at 4 top challenges they’re facing:

  1. They’ve never experienced office norms. From in-person meetings to casual chats while getting a cup of coffee, this is all new to many younger workers. This also includes things that are often learned through direct experience (aka, the hidden language of the office), such as:
  2. Reading the tone of meetings and knowing how (and when) to speak up in groups
  3. How to deal with making mistakes and take accountability
  4. How to build visibility at work
  5. They’re used to autonomy: Working remotely forced many early-career employees to be self-starters and find their work rhythm and direction without a lot of external help or validation. Now, being watched and interrupted can feel distracting and even undermining. They may feel like they’re not trusted and start to become disengaged with the workplace.
  6. They’re feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated in the office: For a generation used to remote work, office life presents a whole new set of sensory overload: constant noise, lack of space, social anxiety. This can quickly lead to fatigue, a loss in productivity and burnout.
  7. They feel like they might be “misunderstood”: In a remote setting, the work spoke for itself. Now, it’s not just about productivity, but there’s pressure on younger workers to present themselves in a certain way. This can cause anxiety about being perceived as “antisocial”, “awkward” or “checked out”. They may fear that this could impact their career advancement.

If you’re struggling with the challenges of returning to the office full time and the stresses of life in general right now, working with a coach, like Leah M Joppy and Associates, can help. Coaching can provide a fresh perspective, goal setting and strategies to make this major life transition a little easier to handle. For managers, we can help you learn the most effective ways for managing the growing number of younger workers and dealing with the challenges they’re experiencing in the office.

To learn more, call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Tips For Transitioning Gen Z Employees

For employees who were used to working in an office full time before the pandemic, the return to office mandate has been challenging enough. But imagine if you’d never really worked in an office environment before and started your career as a remote employee. For members of Gen Z, the return to the office can be daunting and intimidating. And for managers, it can create a whole new set of issues that they may not be used to dealing with.

Gen Z values transparency and inclusion, so the best way for managers to help ease the transition back to the office is to listen, communicate clearly and show empathetic leadership. Here are a few other suggestions to help:

  1. Don’t assume everyone knows how to work in an office environment: Many Gen Zs and even younger Millennials may not have experienced office norms, structure and everyday interactions. Leaders shouldn’t assume that something that seems simple is understood. For example:
  2. Clarify the basics: Where do people eat lunch? Is there a dress code? Is there a noise policy? To help answer these questions, consider creating a return to office guide and placing additional reminders throughout the office. 
  3. Explain logistics upfront: Although things like booking a meeting may seem like common sense, the reality is that for many younger employees, they have questions. Don’t assume that things you may think are obvious are second nature for them. Clarifying office etiquette and making sure young employees feel comfortable asking questions goes a long way.
  4. Lead by example: Make curiosity part of the office culture in a non-judgmental way. If managers openly model asking questions and learning something new, others will follow.
  5. Create a detailed resource hub: Whether it’s a quick-start guide, detailed FAQ, or resource for casual questions, clear communication can greatly reduce uncertainty and embarrassment.
  6. Show them the value of being in the office: If younger workers spend their days in Zoom meetings and in-office work mimics what they were doing at home, you can expect disengagement and even “task masking” (a term for looking busy without actually doing any meaningful work). Look for ways to make the in-office experience more meaningful, such as:
  7. Provide mentorship opportunities: Offer formal and informal mentorship programs that pair Gen Z employees with experienced team members for learning and skill building.
  8. Foster a collaborative environment: Structure some office time around collaborative projects that require face-to-face interaction and feedback.
  9. Provide visibility to leadership: Gen Z values access to leadership for career growth. Providing this kind of give-and-take helps break down traditional hierarchies and makes younger workers feel more comfortable and engaged.
  10. Explain the “why”: Always clearly explain the reason behind in-office requirements or initiatives. Gen Z needs to understand how their contribution impacts the organization’s mission. Clearly explaining the reasons behind decisions and their role within the organization can have a huge impact.

Returning to the office full time is a big change and younger workers in particular may feel stressed, overwhelmed and have a hard time navigating it all. However, leaders with the right mindset and strategy can help ease the transition and manage the challenges that come with it. Leah M Joppy and Associates can work with you to face these hurdles head-on. Learn more by calling us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Managing The Stress Of In-person Work

The transition back to in-office work brings a unique set of challenges, especially for those who experienced a long period of remote work. The shift to an in-person work environment can feel overwhelming, whether it’s adjusting to new routines, balancing work with life or dealing with the emotional impact of change. The first step in managing this stress is acknowledging how you’re feeling. Maybe you’re angry and resentful or maybe you feel a sense of sadness each morning. Identifying your emotions can help you better understand and address the sources of stress. Let’s look at 3 other practical ways to help manage the challenges of returning onsite:

  • Create a Healthy Work-Life Balance: One of the biggest stressors of returning to in-office work is maintaining a healthy work-life balance. A few ways to help include: setting clear boundaries for when your workday starts and ends; resisting the urge to check emails or work after hours; and making time for family, hobbies and relaxation a priority that’s non-negotiable. The return to commuting can also really eat into your time, but try your best to use your commute to decompress. Use this time to listen to music, a podcast or reach out to a friend or loved one.
  • Reframe the Transition as an Opportunity: Instead of focusing completely on the challenges, try to view your return to the office as chance for growth and new opportunities. Reframing the situation can help shift your mindset, making the transition feel less stressful. Think about how reconnecting with co-workers can offer a sense of camaraderie and collaboration opportunities that might have been missing during remote work. Many people find they are more productive in an office environment, with fewer distractions. Also, being physically present in the office may offer more professional opportunities, enabling you to take part in impromptu discussions and engage with leadership in a way that might be harder virtually.
  • Focus on What You Can Control: Returning to the office may have come with a slew of new guidelines and expectations. Some of these changes may be beyond your control. However, focusing on the aspects of your workday that you can control helps reduce stress. For example, be honest with your manager about your needs and concerns. Open communication can help you navigate any adjustments and get the support you need. Now is also the time to stay organized and maintain a schedule to track to-do lists, deadlines and meetings. It’s an effective and simple way to feel more in control of your day.

Returning to the office full time is a big change and it’s natural to feel stressed, sad or even angry. However, with the right mindset and tools, you can ease the transition and manage the challenges that come with it. Leah M Joppy and Associates can work with you to face these challenges head-on. We can help you focus on building a new routine, maintain balance and take care of your mental and physical health. We can also provide tailored workshops to help team members adjust to their new norm. Learn more by calling us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

The Challenges Of Returning To Office

While chaos, layoffs and agency restructuring have dominated the headlines for months, there is a new day-to-day reality for many federal workers: the return to the office. It’s a reversal of the remote work schedule so many of us had become accustomed to. Where we once established a greater work/life balance, enjoyed a more flexible schedule and often had better focus, we’re now dealing with long commutes, cramped workspaces and shaky internet. It’s been a challenging time for so many and an upheaval in our routines and schedules. What are some of the biggest challenges that workers are experiencing? Here’s a look at some of the top areas:

  • Challenges for working mothers: According to the Institute for Women’s Policy Research, 60% of women say job flexibility is a deciding factor in accepting employment. For many working mothers, the ability to work remotely at least a few days a week isn’t just a luxury, it’s essential. If flexibility is taken off the table, many women will choose to resign or look elsewhere for organizations that offer a better work/life balance. Federal data shows that women account for about 45% of the government workforce, far below the public sector’s 58%. The federal government could see a mass exit of experienced female professionals if this lack of flexibility continues.
  • Challenges With Technology: A lot of remote workers felt their set up at home was better than what they had in the office. And many wonder why they need to be onsite for the same virtual meetings they were having at home, only with a more challenging internet connection. Remote work forced the widespread adoption of digital tools and technology to make communication, collaboration and productivity easier. Returning to the office can be challenging for employees who have become used to remote-friendly workflow and technology, particularly if they were onboarded as remote workers.
  • Challenges With Office Culture: For some employees, going back to the office means a return to traditional office culture, stricter schedules and less autonomy. This may be a big shift from the more relaxed culture enjoyed during remote work.
  • Challenges With Expenses: Working remotely saved many employees a lot of money, whether it was saving on commuting expenses to not having to spend as much money on lunches and a work wardrobe. Childcare and caregiving costs for aging parents can also be incredibly costly and a major source of stress for many workers.

At least some of these challenges probably sound familiar. And, unfortunately, many of them can’t be controlled. We can’t change the traffic on the Beltway or the crowds on the Metro. What we can do is focus on what we can control: how we react to situations, how we take care of ourselves and establishing new routines. We’ll cover that a little more in our next article.

It’s easy to write about these challenges. It’s harder to figure out how to handle them – either individually or as a group. If you’re struggling with the challenges of returning to the office full time and the stresses of life in general right now, working with a coach, like Leah M Joppy and Associates, can help. Coaching can provide a fresh perspective, goal setting and strategies to move from merely surviving to thriving. And not only can we help with coaching but we can also provide tailored workshops to help team members adjust to their new norm. Give us a call.

To learn more, call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Finding Motivation In Trying Times

The stressors of the past several months have caused many of us to feel like we’re in fight or flight mode. Perhaps you’ve noticed that you’re having difficulty making decisions or having issues with your short-term memory. Or maybe you’re feeling numb and disassociated and have trouble finding motivation. All of these feelings are signs that you’re living in survival mode. It can be challenging dealing with the day-to-day, much less feel like you can plan for the future. You may feel ‘stuck’ and wonder how you can move forward and feel more like yourself.

There is no single way to get out of survival mode and different approaches work for different people. However, the first step is to acknowledge that you’re living in survival mode and that you’ve been coping for too long. Acknowledge how you’re feeling without putting on a brave front. Here are a few other ways to help move out of survival mode:

  • Use some self-compassion – It all starts with giving yourself a break and talking to yourself in a kinder, gentler way. Ask yourself how you’d treat your best friend or your child if they were feeling this way and then apply that to yourself. It’s okay to struggle and you deserve to look after yourself.
  • Take care of your health, both physically and mentally – For some, survival mode might look like binge-drinking and bad eating habits. But nurturing self-care looks like taking the time to do something each day that feeds your physical and mental wellbeing. It can be getting outside for a walk, eating more fruit and vegetables and less sugar or deleting social media apps on your phone.
  • Build in some structure – If you’ve been in survival mode for a while, you’re probably struggling to plan and probably feel disorganized and disjointed. This is where building more structure into your day can help create a sense of order and calm. It can also help with some of the decision fatigue that tends to come with survival mode. It may be the last thing you feel able to do right now, but even a small amount can make a big difference.
  • Acknowledge little ‘wins’ – Aiming for realistic and achievable goals, no matter how small, will help build confidence and provide some fuel to help you through this difficult time. What goal can you set for the day or the week? Think about how you’ll feel when you hit it.
  • Figure out your triggers that are within your control – Make a list of things in your life outside of work that are triggering stress and identify ways to counteract that stress or limit your exposure to it. For example: Are you doom scrolling on social media and need to take a break? Are you checking your email more than you need to and can cut back? Is it time to turn off the news and do something more productive?

When you’re in survival mode, just remember: It’s okay not to be okay. Sometimes you need some extra support to feel like you’re moving forward and not stagnating. That’s where working with a coach, like Leah M Joppy and Associates can help. You can’t change what’s happening in the workplace, but you can find ways to feel less ‘stuck’ and able to plan for the future.

Call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Living In Survival Mode

With everything going on in your work life right now, does it sometimes feel like you’re trying to walk through quick sand? Do you barely have the energy to make it through the day, often feeling on edge and exhausted? The cloud of uncertainty you’re living under right now may have caused a shift from feeling like you’re thriving to living in ‘survival mode’. And the symptoms you’re experiencing are a normal response to stress, not a reflection on your strength or capability as a person. It’s your body’s evolutionary response to danger and is meant to protect you in times of threat.

What Is ‘Survival Mode’?

You’ve probably heard the term before, but what exactly does ‘survival mode’ mean? When you’re in survival mode, your brain is focused on getting through challenges. It’s constantly on alert to protect you from threats and can stop you from resting or enjoying life. Survival mode can appear differently in different people. For some, it looks more like anxiety, and in others, flatness and depression. For example, if you have anxiety, you feel hypervigilant and on high alert. In those with constant low mood, lack of energy and feeling ‘flat’, the parasympathetic nervous system may be over-functioning. In both cases, the nervous system has become dysregulated in response to stress.

When you’re knee-deep in survival mode, particularly for a long period, it can be difficult to identify the symptoms. Here are 5 common signs to look for:

  • Difficulty making decisions: When you’re in survival mode, even small decisions can feel overwhelming. Choices that used to be easy and straightforward, like deciding what to eat or what to wear, might feel challenging and even impossible at times.
  • Feeling unmotivated: Activities and tasks that used to excite you might now feel draining or pointless. You may feel a general lack of motivation and may start feeling down on yourself for being ‘lazy’. But it’s far from it – it’s a sign that your mind and body need a break.
  • Lack of focus and concentration: You may find it hard to concentrate on tasks or keep forgetting things. A lack of focus can happen when your brain is overloaded with stress and anxiety.
  • Frequent mood swings and irritability: The constant tension and anxiety that comes with survival mode can make your mood change quickly and you might find yourself becoming irritated by small things that didn’t use to bother you.
  • Inability to relax or unwind: Your mind might be racing constantly, making it difficult to enjoy downtime, hobbies or rest properly.

Persistent, unresolved stress is a key indicator of survival mode. It’s normal to feel stress from time to time, but if this stress doesn’t go away and starts affecting your daily life, it’s a sign you’re stuck in a survival state. Extended periods can have major impacts on everything from your physical health to your relationships and overall quality of life.

So many of us are facing unprecedented challenges in our work life, but feeling stuck in survival mode and unable to plan for the future doesn’t have to feel like your ‘new normal’. Working with a coach, like Leah M Joppy and Associates, provides a fresh perspective, goal setting and strategies to move from merely surviving to thriving. To learn more, call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Negativity Comes In Many Forms

With all up the upheaval in our professional lives, waking up in a “bad mood” can feel like an everyday occurrence. It can make us want to hide and isolate ourselves from friends, family and life in general. In fact, we may not even be aware at how much negativity has affected our day-to-day thinking.

Negativity can feel like a vicious cycle: you try your best to be positive, but then you get another text, email or have a conversation that sends you on a downward spiral. Prolonged periods of cynical thinking, denial and catastrophizing can create neural pathways in the brain that encourage sadness. These feelings can cause our brain to distort the truth and make it even more difficult to break the negative cycle. There are some common types of negativity that we may not even realize we’re falling victim to. Here are 7 examples:

  • Filtering: Only noticing the bad and filtering out the positive or good in an event or situation (ie- only focusing on the few criticisms in a performance review and not hearing all of the positive feedback).
  • Jumping to Conclusions: Assuming something bad will happen because of circumstances in the present.
  • Catastrophizing: Believing that disaster is inevitable.
  • Blaming: Blaming others for your circumstances and feeling that you are a victim to life’s uncontrollable events.
  • Emotional Reasoning: Defining what’s real and what’s not based purely on your emotions.
  • Fallacy of Change: Believing that if people or circumstances change, you’ll be happy.
  • Heaven’s Reward Fallacy: Assuming there will always be a reward for hard work and sacrifice. When the reward doesn’t happen, you become bitter and depressed.

Negative thoughts and emotions are a natural response to challenges in our life, but extended bouts can result in health issues, both physical and mental. Negativity sends our body into ‘fight-or-flight’ mode. We deal with stressful situations by releasing cortisol into the bloodstream, making us more alert and focused. And although some stress is good for us, extended periods of negativity can cause a host of side effects, including:

  • Slower digestion and upset stomach
  • Decrease in the immune system’s ability to fight inflammation
  • Headaches
  • Fatigue
  • Sleep problems or insomnia
  • Drastic changes in metabolism (i.e. overeating or under-eating)

You’re probably thinking, “Great! Now I’m not only dealing with work uncertainty, but I’m doing harm to my health as well!” The good news (and there is some!) is that negativity is a habit that can be broken. It’s not easy when you’re in the midst of chaos, but it is possible. We’ll look at some techniques to help in our next article. Working with a coach, like Leah M Joppy and Associates, can also provide a fresh perspective, goal setting and accountability that can help break the cycle of negativity. You want to feel like you’re moving forward – coaching can help you get there and feel less “stuck”. To learn more, call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.

Note: Our ‘Purposeful Retirement’ seminar on June 28th will now be held via Zoom. To learn more and register, please visit: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/purposeful-retirement-workshop-love-your-next-chapter-tickets-1325629667019.

Picture Your Retirement

When you picture your retirement years, what do you see? Maybe your mornings are spent sleeping in and enjoying a good book along with your coffee. Or perhaps you’re spending your time relaxing and lying on the beach. But for many retirees, once the novelty of “getting to do whatever I want” wears off, they’re left with the nagging question of “what is my purpose in my new life”?

The numbers seem to back this up. According to a study by AARP in collaboration with National Geographic partners, nearly half (47%) of adults are concerned about being able to maintain a sense of purpose and relevance in retirement, including 41% of retirees. And 46% of retired adults say they never gave any thought to planning for their personal fulfillment during retirement. The lesson is clear: it’s never too early (or late) to start planning for what will bring you purpose once you’re retired.

So, what do we mean by ‘purpose’? Purpose is that inner excitement that lights you up, affecting nearly every aspect of your life. It’s strongly tied to your mental, emotional and physical health and longevity. Throughout your life, you’ve probably had a variety of activities that have brought you purpose: your career, raising your family, being involved in your children’s activities, etc. However, during retirement, these activities are no longer a big part of your life. This means that finding and maintaining purpose throughout retirement is critical for long-term joy and fulfillment. Feeling aimless and not building that purpose can lead to:

  • Isolation
  • Depression
  • Loss of identity and meaning
  • Lack of structure and routine
  • Poorer physical and mental health

You may be wondering, “how do I get started planning for a fulfilling and meaningful retirement”? No one can tell you your purpose, not your spouse or your children. It’s personal and requires taking a deep dive into what truly brings you joy and fulfillment. In our next article, we’ll look at some steps you can take to find your purpose, but self-reflection is really the key. On June 28th, Leah M Joppy and Associates will be holding a workshop to help you plan a purposeful retirement and find meaning in this next chapter of your life. You’ll gain a profound sense of self awareness, a stronger glimpse into your unique talents and a vision and action plan for when you’re ready to retire.

To learn more and register, please visit the events page. We’ll help you move beyond simply retiring from something, and instead, retire to something truly meaningful.

Your Retirement Is Personal

We probably all know someone who was so anxious to retire, only to sit on the couch most of the day watching television. Maybe you’ve witnessed a family member or close friend retire and lose that “spark” they had when they were working. Most likely, you’ve said to yourself, “that will never be me!” Yet, so many retirees are so excited by the prospect of having more free time that they forget to plan for what they’ll do with all that free time.

Once you’re retired, there’s a profound shift in routine. But just because you may not get up to go to work every day doesn’t mean that you don’t have a purpose or mission—you just have to find it! Self-reflection is a big part of the puzzle. Here are 5 ways to uncover what your inner voice is telling you:

  • Think about what you value: Your personal values are a great predictor of what actions and decisions will most likely lead to purpose. If you never sit down to think about your values, you’re more susceptible to making decisions based on whatever information is in front of you at the moment. Let your values drive your decisions! Knowing what you stand for helps keep you on a path you believe in.
  • Recognize your unique strengths and talents: Choosing a purpose that comes naturally and has meaning to you will make you more likely to achieve it. And when you utilize your innate talents, you will be more likely to succeed and build the confidence to try new things.
  • Think about what you enjoy doing in your spare time: How we spend our free time tells us a lot about ourselves. Do you like to use your time educating yourself and expanding your skillset? Or do you enjoy exercising and spending time in nature? Maybe social time with friends and family is your top priority. Whatever the pursuit, taking care of your mind and body is an essential part of living a purposeful life.
  • Connect with family and friends: Social ties are essential, particularly during the retirement years. Loss of routine and daily interactions with co-workers can make many feel isolated. Find new ways to spend time with family and friends and discover new activities you can incorporate into your life. Understanding the connections that matter most to you will help determine how you want to spend your time.
  • Connect with yourself: The most important relationship you have is with yourself. But that doesn’t mean that self-reflection comes easy. That’s where activities like journaling come in. A study from UMass Boston shows that journaling is one of the most effective tools for increasing self-understanding, acceptance, creativity and finding your purpose. Get started by asking yourself some basic questions: What legacy do you want to leave behind? What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? What words would others use to describe you? You may be surprised at some of the answers you uncover!

Planning for your purpose in retirement should be just as important as planning your money. On June 28th, Leah M Joppy and Associates will be holding a workshop to help you plan a purposeful retirement and find fulfillment in this next chapter of your life. We’ll help you move beyond simply retiring from something, and instead, retire to something truly meaningful.

To learn more and register, please visit the events page.

Physical and Mental Health During Times Of Uncertainty

Life has few guarantees, but one thing you can count on is change. And for so many of us, the past few months have really put that to the test. Living with uncertainty for a prolonged period can feel like it’s taking a toll and often in ways that we don’t even realize. Last month, we looked at why we’re so resistant to change and how it challenges our sense of control and fear of the unknown. But what does dealing with uncertainty do to our bodies, both physically and mentally? Let’s take a look:

Common Symptoms in the Body

Everyone is different, but here are 3 common ways that uncertainty manifests in the body:

  • Muscle tension: Muscle tension is one of the most common physical symptoms since dealing with uncertainty causes the body to be in a continuous state of alertness. This stress can cause headaches, neck and back pain and overall achiness.
  • Digestive issues: Digestive problems are another common symptom. Many people experience stomachaches, nausea or changes in appetite when dealing with uncertainty. The stomach is extremely sensitive to stress and anxiety, making it more vulnerable.
  • Sleep issues: Sleep disruptions are also common. The constant worry and overthinking that accompany uncertainty can make it difficult to fall asleep or stay asleep. A lack of restful sleep often increases feelings of fatigue, irritability and difficulty concentrating.

Common Mental Impacts

Again, dealing with uncertainty has different impacts on everyone, but here are some common ways that it can affect mental health:

  • Increased anxiety and depression: Prolonged periods of uncertainty can lead to increased levels of worry, feelings of frustration and difficulty managing emotions
  • Lack of motivation: When you’re faced with so much change and so many questions, it can leave you feeling stuck and like nothing you do will really have an impact. This can make it challenging to start or finish tasks.
  • Racing Thoughts: Your mind may race with “what-if” scenarios and potential negative outcomes.
  • Irritability and Frustration: Living under a cloud of uncertainty can make you more short tempered, perhaps lashing out at co-workers, your partner or children.
  • Restlessness: You might find it difficult to sit still or it may be hard to relax.
  • Indecisiveness: You may have difficulty making decisions or feel paralyzed by the fear of making the wrong choice.

Perhaps you read the list and said, “yes, that’s me right now!” Your big question is: what do I do about it? Change and uncertainty aren’t going away, but how you react to it and take care of yourself is within your control. Some options to consider: seek outside resources such as counseling, a community support group, or  talking with a good friend or church member.  Another option is working with a coach, someone who is trained to help people manage uncertainty.

Leah M Joppy and Associates have coaches that can help you manage many situations. We can provide a fresh perspective, goal setting and accountability to help you achieve sustainable results. We are currently offering 20-minute complimentary exploratory sessions.  It’s an ideal time to book an appointment and talk to us about how you can work through uncertainty in your life. You don’t have to go it alone. We have also added 2 new courses. To learn more, call us at 301-670-0051 or email us at leah@lmja.com.